Am bothered that my boyfriend got a phone call. Should I ask him about it?

Question

Last night my b/f and I were watching a movie and talking and his cell phone rang. It was 11:30 pm. He looked to see who was calling and he didn't answer his phone, he hit "ignore" and closed his phone. Whoever it was left him a voice mail. I went to the kitchen to get something to drink and when I got back I saw where the red light wasn't flashing on his phone, he had listened to the voice mail. Usually when he gets phone calls he'll mention it's his boss calling or his brothers, his freinds. I don't know...I get the feeling that it was another woman calling. Today he called and cancelled the lunch plans that we had for today. Offered no explanation, said he'd talk to me later and hung up. What do you think?

Answer 1

For you to go paranoid over a simple phone call, he must be giving you other signs that the relationship may be in trouble. If this is just about the call, I think you have an active imagination. If you really wanted to know, why didn't you just simply ask who called? All you can do is wait until later and talk about it.

Answer 2

Normally I'd say let it be and don't ask but something is going on here. Now it still might be very innocent and have nothing to do with another woman.



If this kind of activity continues, then ask about it. Do it in the most calm and non-threatening way possible. Once again it might be something private or embarrassing. And be prepared for him not to say anything at all.



A few months ago I had an old friend drop in out of the blue. We hadn't spoken to each other in years but also the guy is a lose cannon. I didn't tell my wife. Trust me it was better that way.

Answer 3

I know it's wrong, but when you get the chance look at his phone when he isn't looking. I was seeing a guy and noticed him texting all the time when we were hanging out. When I got the chance to look at his messages he was, in fact, talking to a girl and saying almost the exact same things he would say to me to charm me. I backed off because I would rather it be her than me.

If you can't do that then just ask him like it isn't a big deal and you're just curious. He may get a little annoyed and ask you why you're being so paranoid. Tell him you're sorry that he gave you a reason to feel that way. He should understand where you're coming from. Maybe he would react the same way to you if you were the one getting phone calls like that.

Answer 4

Honestly, give it some time, i think you may be reading a little too deeply into this so soon after the phone call. it could be that there is another woman, or it couldve been an old friend that he just didnt want to talk to at the time. my bf ignores phone calls all the time, if i ask him about it, he will show me the missed call that it was his friend, aunt or uncle, or whoever that he just didnt feel like talking to at the moment while we were spending time together. it could just be a crazy coincidence, give it some more time and see if something else strange happens. and please let us know. :)

Answer 5

I think you should ask him about the cancelled plans if it's bugging you, and although the phone call isn't really your business, if he typically mentions to you who it is and all that, then it's okay for you to ask him about his late call that he didn't mention to you who it was, didn't take the call, and listened to the vm when you were out of the room.



Although all this does show a lack of trust on your part...so be prepared for a possible unfavorable reaction.

Answer 6

What's it to you? I realize that this may come as somewhat of a shock, but isn't he entitled to some privacy that may have absolutely nothing to do with you?



Perhaps, oh I don't know, he didn't want to interrupt the movie? Do you tell him about every phone call or voicemail message that you get?



Either choose to trust him, or choose not to trust him; there is no fence to sit on. Talk to him tonight (as he requested) and ask him if everything is all right. Allow him the opportunity to provide you with any number of legitimate, and conceivably truthful, explanations for his behavior if you feel you absolutely need one. You have nothing to go on at this point, aside from insecurity.

Answer 7

It seems like he could be hiding something but it's hard to know because you didn't get any proof of it. Maybe the best thing for you to do is just ask him up front about the phone call, tell him that he normally doesn't do things like that it seemed kind of weird to you, he might actually tell you something. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Definitely tlk to him. But try to look at the big picture. Has any other thing happened that might lead you to conclude hes doing something? Also, remember to look at it with a neutral mind set. What i mean is if you are looking for something you will find it. If you are trying to prove he is cheating, you will more than likely see things the wrong way to prove he is. Thats what happened with my girl... she tought i was and she would "put two" together and she would magnify things just to prove i was. Talk to him first, and tell him exactly how you feel.

Answer 9

I would be bothered and i would bring that to his attention. First why did he not answer his phone and why did he wait until you left the room to check his voicemail that would automatically make me think that he is hiding something. The best thing to do would just be to ask him if you feel like his answer is not what your looking for always remember women are naturally private investigators. good luck

Answer 10

it is possible to turn off the message light on a cell phone without listening to the message,

Answer 11

i doubt one thing had anything to do with the other but a womans intuition is rarely wrong. go with your gut. ask him otherwise u will continue to wonder and every little thing will arouse ur suspicion. if he's innocent he should have no problem giving u a str8 answer.

Answer 12

just because he is your boyfriend doesnt mean he has to share everything with u. it could have bern a relative or someone he doesnt evn kno. if u spazz out at him about your doubts, he will most likely think you are paranoid and he'll leave you. if u really wanna find out who called just ask him. and if he is cheating on u, just dump him.

Answer 13

ummmm wow ! that is suspicious, ask for an explanation but dont press the issue, there might be some logic or ur just being paranoid.

Answer 14

This is something you should investigate upon. In a true relationship there's trust and without it you have something serious to think about.

Answer 15

Honestly when another guy/friend calls me i ignore it, so if it's really bugging you then ask him, but that will make him mad, so you can let it go, or maybe pick an arguement.

Answer 16

You need to ask him about the phone call.

Answer 17

don't worry everyone breaks the pattern. if you meddle with his personal life it will probably set him off, so until there are more signs just relax

Answer 18

yes that was most likely another woman i say look into it more

Answer 19

I think you have every right to ask. Otherwise the "wondering" will drive you crazy!

Answer 20

No..... you should ask "us" if you should ask him and then if we say yes, come back and tell us how the argument went.

Answer 21

well it depends does this happen often if so u better get your but over their and talk to him

Answer 22

you don't have enough evidence to go full on crazy about this.



But, I'd certainly keep my eyes open.

Answer 23

I think the same thing you do. He's hiding something.

Answer 24

yes i think u should ask.you go girl

Answer 25

I think you are in trouble.

Answer 26

I think if its bothering you, you should ask him about it..

Answer 27

be careful be very careful..god i hopetnothing is going on..men are blinded sometimes...OMG..talk to him.....

Answer 28

I think you're paranoid and insecure.

Answer 29

You should inquire about it.