HELP: boyfriend issue..?

Question

We've been together for three months. We are in Paris. He is French, I am from Aisa.
We both can speak good English. We have this amazing connection between us, he is nice and sweet, always saying he believes in us, said he knew I was the one when he saw me for the first moment.

But I am not very sure, especially now there are two issues here:
firstly, I will have to go to Germany next week because of work, and could stay there for very long time,
about this, I discussed with him, he said he didn't want me to be away from him, but this is my career, and he can always visit me at weekends since France and Germany are not very far.

Secondly, language issue. I thought it should be no issue since we both can speak fluent English. But recently I spent some time with his friends, found out most of his friends can not speak English well, when we were together, I can only sit there. several his friends told me it is very important for me to learn French, even he didn't say so.

Answer 1

Your boyfriend sounds very nice, and attracted to you at the same time. The one thing missing in the jigsaw is the language barrier. Can you not both move to London?



A few French lessons could also go a long way, after a few weeks you'll be able to have a basic conversation with all of his friends. Hello, how are you, im fine, how was your day, what are you doing, good bye, good night, happy birthday..that kind of thing.



You say you have a good connection with your boyfriend. Thats what matters. Your dating your boyfriend not his friends.

Answer 2

We have to adjust to realities in a relationship..



You want to go to Germany and he can only see you once in a while.. Is that going to be a satisfactory relationship? NO!! One of you have to sacrifice.



As for his non-English speaking friends.. well, that is understandable as they are friends together in Paris. Why don't you learn to speak French? That's better than the load of them learning to speak English!



What if, you go to Germany and find a better guy there??

Answer 3

As for the language thing - HE is your boyfriend, not his friends! If he speaks English, that's all that's really important.



As for the long-distance relationship thing....

People always say they never work out, but I disagree - you just have to make the effort. Talk to him on the phone during the week, and then he can visit you on weekends (like you said) Also, make sure you make the effort to visit him in France.



Good luck - it sounds like you two really have something =]

Answer 4

Why is it that in relationships the man has to take on the dominant role? Do women not in fact have wants and needs? What makes it such an important thing for you to learn French? Is he not capable of learning your language as well? To H*LL with his friends, after all, they are not the satisfied, nor the satisfied. Who in your eyes counts the most? Most certainly to be independent as well as successful in this twisted world, shouldn't we, (WOMEN) put ourselves first, in every aspect, especially those to do with the opposite sex?!?!

Answer 5

long distance can work out if ur both willing to! as for the language? hes ur bf! ur not trying to impress his friends! but i guess in the long run it would be good to learn another language