Why am I being rejected all the time?

Question

I hate this kinda question. I really try to be a happy person. But rejection I've been getting It has hit me pretty hard right now. I'm not going to resort to something permanent like I've jumped to in the past, but the thought is their, and the help I always go to doesn't seem to help either.

I help out anyone I can! Strangers on the street, with rides or money or food. Even people I know. I'm kinda shy kinda outgoing depending on the situation and comfort level with myself at the time and people and place.

Yet at 22 years old, I can't even get a GF. I have tried three dating sites, I go back and ask a girl for her number if I know ok if I don't i'll kick myself. I can do things independently when I'm not real down(I avoid doing movies or restaurants by myself at the time cause I just get more sad).

I'm not sure if it's cause I'm really not to feisty or something. I am play-full at times and silly. And recently with women I have just been sucking at grabbing their attraction or attention. I have a decent style, and take care of myself. I try to be witty or funny. I haven't kissed a girl since February(I'm down). I can't get my ex back(high school crush really). Any girl I'm hooked up with goes for someone else. I keep getting girls that want to cheat on their guy, but I won't do that with them. And I'm even getting rejected by girls I wouldn't go for(street walkers, even brothels, it's like they don't like me immediately) So I don't know about using my v-card their. But at the same time idk what to do anymore.
I really don't want to try anymore after this much rejection. Online, dating or casual, at work, at the bar, at the mall, even by girls like my ex (she use to escort(regretting I didn't pay for her, she was kinda that love kinda thing I guess, the girl who always got away)), by a majority of my friends unless they are drunk it seems. And everyone it seems kinda(outside of family, but even amongst cousins, uncles, aunts).

I just don't know why. What's the matter with me, I'm a really good person, polite, responsible, artistic, aggressive, and passive. Accepting of basically everyone, trustworthy, reliable. I just don't know why might It being doing this. Even amongst new strangers of friends, it's well ya....

I really don't want to go back to the hermit lifestyle I use to live, I don't like what I'm becoming and don't know why or what I'm doing that's causing this. I'm trying to be positive and take it day by day. Remember peoples names, come up with new topics to talk about. Learn something better myself. But this, idk.Really if you can say anything that might help I appreciate it. I want advise not a judgment, what good is that, save your two cents if that's all your typing is worth please.

Answer 1

Everyone gets rejected. You have to remember that. Everyone gets dumped. It's not just you.

Move on. So you tried and didn't fine the 'one'

Try again.



Think of Love as a sport

If you don't make the basket/goal- do you stop playing the sport? or do you try again?

Answer 2

if you stop looking they'll come to u.

its a saying but it works, when your not really looking u'll meet someone maybe ur need to have someone by ur side comes off as being desperate. u shouldnt have a gf for the sake of having one. u need to find someone u like and want to dedicate the time to build up on that. stop looking to the past and forget dates( like the last u had a gf, or kissed someone).

just take care of the way u look and start doing things for urself and things that interest u and soon u'll come across a girl that will make it seem worth while.

go to ur favorite spots go to museums , join an art club. when u surround urself with people with the same interest ull be more likely to find someone.

Answer 3

DUDE! just relax reading this doesnt even make me want you...if you just take your time and stop trying to be jumpy about hooking up or gettin a girl...just let life handle it you know stop the whole dating websites those doesnt work its a freakin Myth! but you know if you really want to find a couple of speed date clubs around your city or town maybe just maybe you can find that lucky lady...go to your fav stores and maybe you find a girl there pop up a convo about this fake a fall or something just grab her attention most girls love bumping into awkward moments with guys kk =] GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

The whole key is to be confident.



Don't devote your whole life to finding someone.

Put this in the back seat for a while.



Get a hobbie

You never know what kind of girls the tennis courts have.

Answer 5

its okay, ive been through that.. you will be rejected a lot, but you WILL find someone who wont reject you. just keep trying :)

Answer 6

you just might not be very attractive. sorry kiddo

Answer 7

Haha, get over it loser.