Have a problem. Boyfriend help. Is this just lust?

Question

Okay, so here's the problem.
I'm five foot three and I'm kinda okay-ish. Not too flabby but anyways. I like this one guy and we went out a couple of times and then we made out. It was real nice and then we kinda made out some more at his place.
The point is, its just been 2 months since we, you know, admitted our feelings for each other. I'm freaked out if, you know, it's just lust and not... love.
We made out a LOT and I loved it and by the looks of it, he loved it too. Nothing too sexual. Just making out - a lot of kissing, groping and all that jazz.
Today, while making out, we kinda reached the next level.. I mean, we were pretty okay about not actually seeing each others private parts.. but today, he kind of saw my boobs and started to lick them and all that.
I had my periods so I refused to take off my panties. Also, I made him take off his pants. It was hot, everything, but then, I think my boobs are real saggy. Because when I was leaving, he didnt even kiss me, as such. I dunno.. hmm. He hasnt called me, but he had to go somewhere with his dad.

SO. My question here is.. do you think its just lust? We havent done it as yet.. I mean, I dont wanna do it.

Do you think all this is moving too fast? what should I do? I'm confused. I like him, but as we make out more and more, I realise that it's just fading, the "lurve".

Worth 10 points, I guess. Sigh.

Answer 1

girl you're moving to fast , i stayed with my bf for 1 year before we started ANY of " the jazz "

and i think all that you've talked about here was SEXUAL !

no one can decide for you , you should know that , well ..maybe some questions could help you tell if it was love or it was lust



1-do you trust him ?

2-how much does he know about you

3-how much do you know about him

4-are you both ready to sacrafice nd give up things for each other?

5- can you imagine yourself without him ?



if 4 of these are correct then baby love is in the air !





hope i've helped <3

Answer 2

Sorry to say but i think this is just lust, he just wants someone to make out and do something with and you need someone more. Your allowed to make out with someone without actually having feelings for the person and i think that's what he is doing. A relationship includes talking and being physically sexual, sounds to me like your just doing the sexual part. you really need a guy that you dont have to question whether its lust or love. You will know when its love.

hope this helps :]

Answer 3

This definately sounds like lust, and if you don't want to have sex then don't. Especially since you two aren't in love, you should only have sex with someone if you are truely in love. Hunny it's nothing other than lust, sorry. Oh, and make sure he isn't playing you. You may just be a play thing to him, but I might be wrong. I'm just taking this from my experience, I was with a guy and as soon as he found out that I wasn't going to be his little toy he left me. But its all up to you.

Answer 4

Ok just a little FYI your boobs being saggy and old ladiesh has nothing to do with this. However, if he stayed with you this long it prolly wasen't lust. He could find that at a radom party with a total whore. It's natural to want to get in a girls pants. Guys are like that and it's not all they want but they realllllly want it. It's fine don't worry about it you are wayyy over reacting.

Answer 5

If it's love you'll know. Given that your asking this question then I'm sorry it's just lust.



Have fun, but sex is such an emotinal thing it's hard to just have 'casual sex', and yeah I wouldn't have sex with him if I were you and I'd set him straight because now he'll prolly think that he can do whatever he wants with you.



Take care :]

Answer 6

Well how you put it...it sound more like lust than love......and i dnt think you should do it with him just because he wants to just make him wait until your ready and if he cant well he isnt good enough for you and he is just another jerk we have in the world lolz....htink about it before you make a mistake ok

Answer 7

Dang,

If you're 18 or 19+ then you're not moving fast at all.

If you under 18 then you're going hella fast.



You guys have gone this far, might as well go all the way, ya know.

Answer 8

Well if your as old as I think you are then it sounds like lust and if you do decide to you know be safe.

Answer 9

if you dont want to have sex...you are defientely sending the wrong message to him. if he doesn't know this, you should tell him and see what he says...you'll get a better understanding from his reaction and answer. just talk to him

Answer 10

There was absolutely nothing in your description that even hinted that real love is present.

Answer 11

To be honest i don't think it's love i think he just wants to get in your pants. I HATE PERIODS!!!!!

Answer 12

moving to fast: YES!!!!!!! he now knows he can get what he wants!



what should you do?: you should tell him your moving to fast, but if it is lust he'll break up with you



its LUST

:( sorry

Answer 13

only have sex if you really have feeling for this boy. that's pretty much it.

Answer 14

you should you know...