why would he stand me up? He's the one who asked me out?

Question

I am so confused. and a little mad. so sorry if i am venting. So i met this really great guy through a really distant friend one night. We had some good conversation and he was really great, just an intelligent and funny person. He got my number and then i left the club. So, the next day he texts me and we are talking yada yada, he asks me out. it doesn't work for me and i was leaving for thanksgiving in LA a couple of days later. so i tell him i'm sorry, but i definitely want to hang out with him so when i got back i would set something up. So i get back and i schedule something for this really really cool VIP event at Art Basel. Like this was a big deal, i had to pull some strings to get my name and a guest on the list. So it was confirmed. We were going to go together. I was going to pick him up. So it's about 30 minutes before the event and i hadn't really talked to him all day, so i call. no answer. I got really annoyed and called like 10 times. He is a school teacher and it was a Friday so i assumed he was just tired and sleeping. Ends up, i never get a hold of him, and i just take my good friend who is always down to party. We have the best time, we see Paris Hilton and we get really drunk. So, i'm a little mad but not really since i had a nice time in the end. So later that night he texts me and says he was super sorry and he fell asleep, etc. So i make another plan for us to just grab drinks after he got off work. Super easy for both of us, we could grab dinner if we wanted to, or just have a drink and go separate ways. He is super down for it and we make a plan. The plan for drinks was today. SAME situation. an hour before we had agreed to meet i text him and ask him if we were still good for drinks and that i hoped his day was fine. He never texted me back. So i called him. no answer. So, i don't know what i did? He and i would text all the time in between these plans. so it's not like he forgot. He has the option set on his phone so i can see if he read my message or not and it says that it is unread. BUT, on instagram he has added like 4 new pictures of bacon wrapped dates. (maybe i shouldn't like him.) I don't know, he just told me i was cute and nice and he wanted to hang out with me. I just wish if he didn't want to hang out he would just tell me, or make it obvious that he doesn't want to without telling me. I'm pretty sure i am done with this dude. What do you guys think?

Answer 1

Screw him! You have been calling him, 10 TIMES!!!!!!!!!! And the next day he says he is sorry. Then the second time and you buy some drinks. You called him again and he didn´t answer? MOVE ON!!!!!!! Don´t even call him or text him. Live your life and ignore that jerk.

Answer 2

Why do guys do this? Why do they tell us they like us and want to spend time with us, then disappear when we make ourselves available? Talk about mixed signals. However, they say actions speak louder than words for a reason. He sounds cool, you sound cooler. I would say no more texts, no more contact. Let him take the ball next go around and if he doesn't pick it up, drop him. Don't waste your time on sometime who is not willing to invest in you. Hope this works out the way you want it to.

Answer 3

maybe he has all good intentions of keeping the dates, and then when the time comes, he's a procrastenator or something, where he just can't get his butt up to get ready and get out of the house.

you said he teaches, maybe once he gets home thats it - there's no more leaving for him.

maybe it's easier for him to live life online or through texts as opposed to getting up and going out.



it's up to you if you want to give him a third chance.

do you feel he would be worth the aggrevation of wondering if he was going to show up ?

who knows, hopefully if the third time is a charm, he does keep the date and you hit it off .

Answer 4

Make him ask you. It's not fair if your the only one interested. If he never asks then it never happens and you get over him. Just see how he reacts this time if he wants to see you first, then go for it. Don't let him play you.

Answer 5

Perhaps he is really nervous? Let's see his excuse this time, he could spell trouble, should never stood you up, and at least let you know ahead of time he had an excuse.

Answer 6

Maybe it was a dare.