Question:
is it appropriate my gf doing this?
James
2010-03-31 04:45:33 UTC
hi im Josh from ny. my gf and i r in a relationship for one years. i go to brooklyn n she is in city college. few months ago she made a male friend with her clasmates whos a very hot n attractive guy. hes very helpful and nice to er. They got very close to each other with time like spendin whole day together, playing tennis, partying etc. Most of da day he drives her home. som days ago while driving from downtown i saw them coming out of a theater. Later i found out that sometimes she goes to cinema with him not taking other friends of her only two of dem. generally they pick odd timing of the show when the theater gonna b empty. they used to talk late hours at night.sometimes its about couple of hours long conversation. At first i had no idea when i gettin her ph engage as i used to call her daily. i told er about it since then she enabled call waiting on her ph. once i asked her is it appropriate that she is goin to the cinema alone with him. she freaked out hearing this n said they had fun n im being mean. to make the matter worse recently some of her closest friend started picking on her and that guy though they know very well that im her bf n we r in this relationship for years.they r texting her tellin that she should come to her senses and be his gf and marry him. i asked er about this racket and she freaked out again and said theres nothin wrong that friends make these jokes and she had fun hearing these too.

at this point my ques is to guyz are:

a. is it appropriate 4 a girl in a relationship 2 go 2 a likely to be empty theater in odd time alone with a hot male friend?
b. is it appropriate as they r having long conversation at night?
c. is it appropriate that her friends r tellin her to hook up with him knowing that she is engage with another guy?
d. is it alright she having fun out of these?

please answer.............................ima waitin
Fourteen answers:
bc
2010-03-31 04:57:55 UTC
i suggest you do the same thing too. give a bit of her own medicine. i guess if nothing is going wrong from her point of view she wont freak out if you start spending your time like she does with another girl. this should open her eyes. if it doesnt work out, just let her go. it will make you unhappy to hold on to her if she wants something or someone else.
2010-03-31 10:41:31 UTC
bro.....i'm so sorry to see u in this situation. However i'm trying to answer your question one by one



a. it is ok to go with a male friend to the cinema but not very appropriate if the girl is in a relationship considering the fact the you are certainly don't like it. So she should have respected your feelings.



b. there is nothing i see a boy and girl being just friends have so much to talk about that takes long hours at night. I guess they are doing it often from the info you have provided. So I find it highly inappropriate that a male friend took so long hours at midnight when the boyfriend finding the line constantly busy.



c. this is ridiculous man! her friends definitely doesn't respect your relationship with her or she doesn't held your relationship with her to them in such a way that they learned to respect it. However you can not completely blame her for that.



d. if you love her....you should be happy knowing she is having fun.



Final words...from the information you have provided.personally i don't think she is truely in love with you.so its time for you to asses everything and decide



Good luck dude!
qweerwqer
2010-03-31 19:16:52 UTC
lol it is really innapropriate. I guess what worries me the most is how naive some of the women that posted to this question are. I mean how can they say that there is nothing wrong with this scenario. I would like to ask these women at what point should the bf step in and tell his gf to stop. Before or after her friend has slept with her. for your information girls believe that the world is made out of sugar canes, unicorns, and ponies. They typically only see the short term impact of there actions. Which is why they think that guys only want to be there friends. If you ask any guy this isnt the case. Guys hang out with girls because the want to get some action from the girl or one of her friends. And girls whango out with guys because they want to feel attractive. In my opinion any girl that needs to feel attraction from another guy is just a wh0re. The only guy they should be getting it from is there bf.
Steve
2010-03-31 04:55:46 UTC
Dude look their no easy way to do it but you have to dump her.....it is so not appropriate that she is doing this to you.....tell her you don't feel comfortable with her seeing this guy the whole time if she freaks out again then you just got to tell her you want a break for a while....like how would she feel if you did the same...sorry but it really sounds like she's cheating on you...hope this helps..
kaybabyy
2010-03-31 04:50:43 UTC
To give her the benefit of the doubt, I think you're overreacting and they're just friends. But some girls can be hurtful like that, so she may be developing feelings for him. I'd keep a close eye on them.. You should confront her about it more. Tell her it's bothering you and that even though you know she wouldn't cheat on you, it's making you uncomfortable when she's with him alone and stuff.
Christine
2010-03-31 04:53:34 UTC
A. Absolutely inappropriate.

B. Even more inappropriate.

C. This is appropriate since they are her friends and are entitle to their opinion.

D. No, not appropriate.



I am sorry to tell you this, but I am sure that she is dating this guy. If he isn't gay, you should consider her cheating on you. Do she spend this kind of time with any of her girl friends?? Exactly. She is a selfish person who is leading you on, and you don't deserve that.
boots6
2010-03-31 04:53:18 UTC
a. Yes its appropriate, if they are friends or best friends.

b. Yes its appropriate, if they are friends.

c. No, but friends are not always appropriate.

d. Yes of course its alright she's having fun. What is she supposed to sit around waiting for you to show up all day?



e. If you don't trust her, and feel something is going on between them, despite what she says, it means you shouldn't be with her.
gratz
2016-09-10 10:21:15 UTC
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Regina J
2010-03-31 04:51:00 UTC
No, no, no and no. She is playing you. If she had any respect for you what-so-ever she would not be doing any of these things. You need to come to your senses and tell her she can have him. Do you think it would be ok with her if you found another girl to go out with while she is out with him? Probably not. Don't let her play you any longer.
jasper
2010-03-31 04:53:44 UTC
You will have to wake up to the fact she is not YOUR girlfriend any more. Sorry, but read the signals.
2010-03-31 04:52:36 UTC
man if u love her get her,,,,,,, spend time wit her...... or just move on



give her an open space tel her that u donot like it,,,,, if she still continues wit it then it s clear she is asking u to move out wit out being compulsive,,,,,,,



no a b c n ds can be right or wrong unless you decide wat to do,,,
aziza
2010-03-31 04:51:36 UTC
hi sorry that u in this situation but guys n girls can be just friendds. yr insecurity is wht will likely end yr relationship.
?
2010-03-31 04:51:21 UTC
i think she might be cheating on you

but she might be just hanging as a friend
2010-03-31 04:51:34 UTC
its definitely NOT appropriate.


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