dilemma. embarrassed or cheating?

Question

my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years.things really havent been different with us but lately but he has been avoiding sex or anything to be in bed alone even to simply watch tv. he is uncircumcised and about a month ago he suffered a tear during sex. he avoided sex than...obviously so it could heal. so i didnt think twice. we had sex again & it happened again. i don't want to embarrass him & ask about it constantly, but its obvious he's been avoiding sex. he's still extremely affectionate & touchy with me but it never goes further. than i found out he ordered these "male enhancement" pills, but we haven't been having sex. should i assume that its just because he's healing or trying to impress someone else? maybe he feels insecure now? it makes me suspicious that he avoids sex but is buying pills to enhance sex. he may be trying to redeem himself cuz he felt embarrassed. i don't think he'd be cheating if he feels insecure w/ me. but guys not wanting sex is suspicious LOL

Answer 1

You should feel comfortable talking with him after 3 years together. I understand not wanting to bug him or make him feel bad however, by the same token, you should not feel bad or go unsatisfied.



You should start by telling him how you feel, not wanting to upset him etc., then be willing to provide possible solutions or things to try. Be open and honest with him. During your conversation, it might even come out about the male enhancement products...you never know, not talking about it will only add to the problem over time. Things could not get better without addressing it.



Good luck!

Answer 2

Just thinking aloud here, but I'm circumcised and if I ever "ripped" anything within a good foot of my penis, I'd likely not have sex for some time. If I did it again, I might permanently call it a day. I realize we men will never have to give birth but the amount of pain your boyfriend is going through has got to be unreal. I'm sure the enhancement pills are for later, healing, or just ask him.

Answer 3

If he is in fear of pain, especially when it has happened twice, he may be having erection problems ?? He would probably feel too embaressed to say this to you so you need to let him know you understand and maybe work it out together. Talk to him and explain your worries.

Answer 4

i thnk he's just embarrassed. if he's havng this problem mayb he should think about circumcision? i mean he'd probably feel better about it too



haha and as for guys not wanting sex. thats nothing. my husband is too dedicated to geting in shape and says sex wears him out in a bad way (muscle way) . . you think urs sucks! at least he's gotta better reason lol

Answer 5

I would assume embarrassment, but if you don't trust him to be honest to you... then maybe it's something else. Talk to him, perhaps?

Answer 6

maby he is embarred about it and he is going to redaem his self soon if u suspect something talk to him about it